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Challenging the status quo

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Australia India Business Council NSW annual dinner raises the bar

Australia India Business Council.Indian Link
What was refreshing in the 2015 annual Australia India Address, the flagship event organised by Australia India Business Council (AIBC) NSW, were the candid words by the AIBC NSW President, Raja Venkateswar, and the follow through by High Commissioner of India to Australia, Navdeep Suri.
If the best way to solve a problem is to actually acknowledge there is one, then Raja Venkateswar as the new AIBC NSW President addressed the elephant in the room when he acknowledged that bilateral trade between India and Australia has been stagnant at about $15 billion over the past few years.
“For two ivy league nations such as Australia and India, to have a languishing trade situation, one needs to question why this is happening,” he challenged the 250 attendees at the AIBC NSW dinner, held at the Four Seasons Hotel in Sydney.
“I think the time has come for that great leap of faith, the leap from mediocrity to excellence; from unambitious existence to remarkable success,” Venkateswar said.

While this may seem a mission statement with limited connection to reality, he also shared his solution for how this could happen.
“I personally think a Comprehensive Economic Cooperation Agreement and the Free Trade agreement between India and Australia are inflexion points in the overall ecosystem.”
Australia India Business Council.Indian Link
While details of the FTA are still being worked out, the Indian High Commissioner to Australia, Navdeep Suri prosecuted the case for why India is such an important economic partner for Australia. With a slide of India’s development agenda on the giant screens behind him, the High Commissioner spoke about the success of PM Modi’s current visit to the United States, especially his desire to engage with the entrepreneurs in the Silicon Valley.
“India is the place to do business,” he said. “In 2001, Goldman Sachs came up with the acronym BRICS – Brazil, Russia, India, China and South Africa. Fast forward to 2015 and the Indian economy is the only one which is not down, but growing. Our latest figures bring in growth at 7.3 per cent, the current account deficit is less than one per cent due to falling oil prices and our foreign exchange reserves are very good. The interest rates are on the way down and we have more room to stimulate our economy for better growth. The international ratings agency Moody’s have expressed their confidence in the Indian economy,” he added.
The international economic adjudicator Moody’s view that India’s recent and proposed policies will stabilise inflation, improve the regulatory environment, increase infrastructure investment and lower government debt ratios has been an exoneration of recent government measures.
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Mr Suri further added while there was always respect for the religious book Gita, there is another GITA in modern day India.
“Global Innovation Technology Alliance is the new form of Gita, and India is where there is opportunity for innovation. We just have to look at our electronic voting system, where the decisions of over 540 million people are tabulated and counted in a single evening. With over 600,000 schools in India, technology will be required to deliver even basic education,” he reminded all regarding the opportunities which exist in India.
The main address was to be delivered by the Federal Minister for Trade and Investment, Andrew Robb, but he was a late cancellation and Christopher Pyne, Federal Minister for Industry, Innovation and Science took his place.
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Being in his new portfolio for just a few weeks, Christopher Pyne spoke little about the opportunities with Digital India, instead speaking about the great opportunities that the mining and agricultural sectors have for India and Australia.
“Australia has tremendous opportunities to support India to grow its economy, to employ its people and to create wealth through the mining sector,” he said.
John Ajaka, NSW Minister for Multiculturalism, officially representing Premier Mike Baird, also acknowledged the growing relationship between Australia and India. He built on the tourism theme saying, “New South Wales received more than half of all visitors from India to Australia last year, contributing $190 million to the state economy.”
Australia India Business Council.Indian Link
For the social part of the evening, guests were treated to an up close and personal chat with Indian Consul General in Sydney, Sunjay Sudhir. Interviewed skilfully by AIBC National Vice Chair Sheba Nandkeolyar, the Consul General talked about his time in Sydney, the highlight of PM Modi’s visit, his favourite book and his interest in sports.
AIBC National President Dipen Rughani then fronted up with cricket legend Glenn McGrath in a conversation about cricket, India and all things Bollywood.
The evening, while long, was a wonderful way for the business community to connect and was well paced by an extremely able master of ceremonies, Deborah Bradshaw, who with her quirky sense of humour kept all entertained.

During the visit to Australia, leaders Abbott and Modi set a target of $50 billion of bilateral trade by next year. This seems a colossal jump from where trade sits at the moment, but as Venkateswar said, “Disruption needs to happen and service based innovation can be an important source of creating more bilateral trade between India and Australia.”
While Venkateswar and High Commissioner Suri were reading from the same script, both Minister Pyne and Ajaka had a different approach. And therein lies the challenge for both the countries – to work through mutual growth opportunities to break through the $15 billion bilateral trade barrier!

Tackling youth radicalisation

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A way forward following the Parramatta terror incident

youth radicalisation.Indian Link
An incident was related to Indian Link recently about a visiting Indian religious leader who publicly ridiculed the Hindu tradition of Karva Chauth, in which women observe a day-long fast for the well-being of their husbands. Openly belittling the practice, he went on to list how his own religion was better than the Hindu faith.
He was speaking to a 300-strong congregation, in a suburban Sydney location.
This divisive speech, riddled with hatred, deserved to be condemned, but no one stood up to take this so-called religious leader to task. And so he got the oxygen to spew more of his disruptive ideas in the future.
The reader who shared this experience never went back to the place of worship.
The recent terrorism incident in Parramatta where 15-year-old Farhad Khalil Mohammad Jabar chanted Islamic slogans, killed police employee Curtis Cheng and then fired shots at other police officers before being gunned down himself, has shocked the nation. As we go to print, the police are conducting raids around Sydney’s west where other teenagers have been taken in for questioning over their involvement in this terrorist incident.
While the investigation is ongoing, the usual search for answers has begun.
The issue of youth radicalisation has been on the table for the past few years and the government has spoken often about the emerging problem. But in light of the recent incident, the current status is that we have failed to make deep inroads in this area.
Perhaps the new government needs to go back to the drawing board and review its quantum of success and its degrees of failure.
The success part will be difficult to quantify, but from a failure point of view, even one home-grown terrorist incident perpetrated by a radicalised youth is too much. What needs to be asked is, are we as a society connecting with the disfranchised radical youth of today? Is there a vacuum in their minds and hearts which is being taken up by activities which mean harm to our society as a whole? Is there division and disenchantment along religious lines amongst our youth?
One would hope that the answers lie in part with all of us, and the sum of the whole may allow for a positive solution.
It cannot be left to the families alone to reach out to their youth; there has to be an infrastructure around them to allow for positive development. Comments made by the politicians with words such as Team Australia, or the proposed steps to revoke citizenship in case of suspected terrorism, will be counter-productive to the solution.
PM Malcolm Turnbull has often spoken about the responsibility of the media to get the correct message out to the community. It would be good to see more mainstream media take on diverse community involvement. Multicultural broadcaster SBS needs to move into more local production programming with deeper multicultural involvement rather than diversify its food programming. Technology is the key to connecting with the younger generation and SBS needs to work more strategically in this area rather than jukebox-based programming on its digital channels and networks.
The problem of youth radicalisation has raised its ugly head and needs to be tackled strongly. The Australian Strategic Policy Institute provided a series of recommendations earlier this year to steer our youth away from radicalising forces. These include, among others, having open discussions at schools about what is happening in the Middle East and why Australia is there; connecting better with migrant communities and setting guidelines for media reporting about terrorism.
We also need to provide at-risk youth with avenues that will help them get involved in programs, volunteering or mentoring based, that will improve real-life skills and connect them with further education, training or career pathways.

Message for the NSW Community regarding the incident at NSW Police Headquarters in Parramatta

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The shooting incidents which occurred on 2 October at Police Headquarters, Parramatta have impacted the whole community of NSW.

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Two lives have been lost and many are grieving. In what has been described as a devastating incident, a 15 year old male shot and killed NSWPF employee, Mr Curtis Cheng, as he was leaving work at Police Headquarters in Parramatta in Sydney’s West. The offender then fired several more shots at officers as they emerged from the building to respond to the incident. He was killed when special constables returned fire.
Any loss of life, under these circumstances, affects us all. This incident has specifically affected the NSW Police Force family. Our sympathies are with the family of Mr Curtis Cheng and all who are grieving at this time.
As police, our message is that any act of violence, regardless of the motivation will not be tolerated, and will be treated as the serious offence that it is. We have all worked together to create a NSW that is respectful and cohesive and we must continue to nurture all the positive aspects of cultural, linguistic and religious diversity that has always been the fabric of our multicultural society.
Police will continue to keep the community informed with accurate information. We ask you to remain calm, go about your daily activities as you normally would and to report anything of concern and suspicion to Police.
• If it’s an emergency, call Triple Zero ‘000’.
• To report crime anonymously, call Crime Stoppers 1800 333 000
As stated by Deputy Commissioner Nick Kaldas:
“The people who will solve this first and foremost are the community, the parents, the mums and dads, the brothers and sisters, the cousins who deal with these kids… Sit and talk to them. Show them love, show them a home environment that pulls them away from abhorrent influences.”
We want to assure you, the communities of NSW, that NSW Police Force are ready to deal with, and will take very seriously, any threats of violence.
You may notice an increased police presence visible amongst our communities. Police will continue to be at our shopping centres, schools, railway stations, transport networks, public events and places of work and industry. This may also include places of worship and gatherings, to encourage and increase community confidence and safety.
NSW Police Force takes crimes, that are motivated by hatred or prejudice very seriously and any such crimes will not be tolerated. If you are a witness or victim, and you experience any incidents such as this, we encourage you to report to Police as soon as possible.

Embracing Mr Life

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Shriram Iyer is a multifaceted artist bringing a new age of music to the fore

Shriram Iyer.Indian Link
Author, singer-songwriter, event producer, artistic director, management professional. Melbourne-based Shriram Iyer, aka Siyer, is a man of many interests and even more abilities. Blessed with a golden voice, creative flair and above all, the ability to embrace Mr Life, as he fondly calls it, with gusto, he has scripted quite the personal success story.
“Success really is a journey rather than a set destination. And I enjoy and savour the journey at every step,” Iyer told Indian Link. “That I am able to create and entertain is indeed a privilege bestowed by the powers above,” he acknowledged, humbly.
For Iyer, who was born in Bangalore and raised in Gujarat, music has always been an overarching passion. But it was only after his family relocated to New Zealand in 2000, that his musical career gathered momentum. Having learnt the tabla for many years, he eventually realised that singing excited him more than anything else. On the advice of his idol and mentor Shankar Mahadevan, he took up Hindustani music from Ustad Aminul Haque, a disciple of Smt. Kishori Amonkar.
It was while pursuing a degree in engineering, that he finally he realised his true calling. Spurred by his success at Golden Voice of Auckland and with the firm backing of his immediate and extended family, he debuted as performer-producer of ‘Taal Se Taal Mila’. The show was a sell-out.
Now a professional singer, Iyer has performed worldwide. His debut album was released in 2007 by Mahadevan. Working well beyond Bollywood alone, he is contracted to an artist management firm as well as a US label. He has collaborated with several artists worldwide and is currently working with Bobby Beebob to produce and perform contemporary fusion music as Saffron Groove. Iyer’s ‘Aaja Phir Se’ got over 2.5 million views appealing to a ‘world music’ audience.Shriram Iyer.Indian Link
His move to Melbourne in pursuit of a management degree certainly diversified his portfolio. Besides teaming up with some local musicians, Iyer’s writing career also took off. He has since forayed into novel writing as a parallel form of storytelling, with the well-received Wings of Silence. A second novel Let Me Go is due for a 2016 release. His third book is a semi-fictional version of The Mahabharata and he is already mid-way through the fourth, which tackles domestic violence. Besides his busy management career, he has authored several short stories, theatre scripts and screenplays for short films.

Iyer’s mantra is quite simple: “To survive, you must not put all your eggs in the same basket. It is important an artist moves with the times and is able to adapt quickly,” he says. “At the end of the day, it is important to form strong relationships and have a long-term approach to achieving whatever goals one has in the creative arts space.”

A deeply spiritual person, Iyer has long nurtured a dream of producing a spiritual album with a subjective twist.
“It was more of a challenge to myself to see if I could give a fresh sound and make a ‘new age’ spiritual fusion song that could reach out to the current youth and the generations of tomorrow,” he explained.
To coincide with Janmashtami and Ganesh Chathurthi, Iyer tested the waters with devotional singles. Both ‘All For You (Samarpan)’ and ‘Mooshik’ have garnered great reviews. The project, which was crowd-funded, is now set to expand to a full-scale album.
“To do this whilst retaining divine elements was the big challenge which, from the tremendous response, I can say with confidence that we have achieved,” he added.
With two more albums slated for launch in 2016 and a packed live concert calendar, things are certainly looking upbeat for the high flyer. Persistence, resilience and time management skills have helped Iyer weather the long winding road to success. Juggling the diverse threads of his life, he dedicates his success to his wife, parents and fans.
Iyer staunchly believes that risk-taking forms the foundation for big wins in life. “For me, risk has always been an interesting phenomenon and a difficult one to assess,” he explained. A carefree, throwing caution to the winds attitude in the early years has since been replaced with a calculated, more cautious approach. “The answer often lies in ‘responsible risk’ or calculated risk, but there’s only so much that one can calculate. The element of the ‘unknown’ shall always exist and being comfortable with ambiguity is the only way we can learn to tackle the vagaries of the unpredictable Mr Life,” Iyer added.
Quite like his idol, his portfolio of success certainly leaves us breathless.

The metamorphosis

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Profound leadership change takes place at ISCA

Dinesh Sood ISCA.Indian Link
Dinesh Sood

Who says strange events occur in fiction alone! At the recent AGM of the Indian Senior Citizens Association, the implausible took place right in front of our eyes. Dr Dinesh Sood, Secretary (and a proficient one at that), and member for a comparably trivial four years, in a two-horse race for the position of President, convincingly defeated serving President Dr Prem Phakey, who was the founding ISCA President 21 years ago.
While Dinesh – double PhD, winner of various educational awards, Professor of Physics and a devoted volunteer – presented his credentials to the membership by e-mails, Prem presented his via printed sheets on tables during the AGM. Professor of Physics, PhD, his tenures in India, North America, Africa and Melbourne, testing moon rocks at NASA plus an enviable AM, an accolade only three other Indian-Australians enjoy. Although the general consensus of members I approached was ‘if it’s not broken, why fix it’, 160/120 voted in favour of Dinesh which astounded pedants.
In his Presidential speech, Dinesh pledged to ‘clinically pursue’ dictates of the Constitution and to be an ‘active listener’ to all 410 members. Disputes, if they arise, he pledges to settle via the Disputes Resolution Program set out in the Constitution. Dinesh pledges respect for Prem Phakey, his guru, and for all past and present Working Committee members for hoisting ISCA to its present level.
Pledging to serve the membership selflessly, Dinesh but begs for time for his dreams to materialise.
To the Friday program, Dinesh is introducing English Conversation classes for seniors to benefit from. He has already approached Lord Mayor of Monash for extending their Tai Chi program to ISCA. Two years ago, when he took over as Secretary, Dinesh told me in a subsequent conversation, he contacted some eight members by e-mail. Thanks to the computer classes he started in the Friday program, for this AGM he informed 276 members by e-mail.
Indeed trounced, Prem enjoys the rewarding distinction of being ISCA’s longest serving president, an accolade unlikely to be repeated for some time. Krishna Arora is the second longest serving.
To add to evolving elation and to standing ovation, Adi Vajifdar, second oldest ISCA member at 98 years of age, was presented to the membership.
The new era dawning, the hawk-eyed are watching if grants will continue to pour in, and if VIPs will offer ISCA similar deference as they did earlier.
Dinesh may be contacted on sood.dinesh@gmail.com or on 9876 2446.

Bharathiyar in our midst

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A great Tamil icon is remembered in dance

Shanthy Rajendran’s Nrithakshetra School of Bharathanatyam presented a special dance show in early September at the George Wood Performing Arts Centre in Ringwood.
Bharathi.Indian Link
It was a thematic production based on the poems and songs of the great Tamil poet and writer Mahakavi Subramania Bharathi, who stood like a colossus over twentieth century Tamil literature. Bharathi, now recognised as a National Poet in India, also set several of his poems to music and even sang the patriotic songs at Congress rallies during the Quit India movement. No Independence Rally in the Madras Presidency was complete without a few patriotic songs from Bharathi. So popular, simple, yet mellifluous were his poems and songs that they began to be sung in every Tamil speaking household. His writings sparked a renaissance in Tamil literature.
Shanthy Rajendran’s production Salangayil Bharathi was an attempt to capture in dance, the rich emotions and language of this twentieth century Tamil icon. His poems and songs spanning several genres such as the purely devotional to patriotic, didactic and romantic were broadly represented in the dances performed that evening, the choreography was rich and evocative.
Senthamizh Nadu – a song extolling the beauty of the Tamil country – was presented in two overlapping styles: the juxtaposition of the swift folk with the measured classical was a master stroke. The dances on Kanna [Krishna] like Teeraada vilayaattu pillai in ragamalika were a delight to watch as young Krishna’s pranks were beautifully depicted by a group of young dancers.
The Tillana in Brindavani Saranga brought up the finale, with a poem from Bharathiyar forming the benedictory verse.
The orchestra was led by Shanthy Rajendran on the nattuvangam, and Ahilan Sivananthan was the vocalist who enlivened the show with his commanding voice. Suresh Babu was on the violin and Melbourne’s two talented young mrudangists Nanthesh Sivarajah and Sai Nivaethan Ravichandhira were also part of the orchestra.

Pine Island

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The natural detox, as well as the local history, draws visitors back to Norfolk Island

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Nirvana on an island.
That’s how a colleague described Norfolk Island after holidaying there.
I thought then that it was an over-statement. But I change mind after Air New Zealand drops me on that tiny nugget of land generously powdered with tall pine trees and surrounded by turquoise blue ocean splashing on sheer cliff faces. While the breath of fresh, unadulterated air immediately soothes my urbanised mind and body, the picture-perfect natural setting and laidback lifestyle inspires me to imagine myself isolated in a different world.
Eroded remnants of basaltic volcano, active over three million years ago, created this gem in the middle of the South Pacific Ocean. Measuring just eight by five kilometres, Norfolk Island is a venue where pristine environment combines with history and culture to please visitors with a long list of things to see and do.
Norfolk Island travel.Indian Link
Less than three hours flying from Sydney and Brisbane, this idyllic nest annually welcomes around 30000 visitors, many on their second, third or even fifth trip.
“It’s a great place to relax,” say Don and Betty from Brisbane, enjoying their fourth time in this sub-tropical refuge. “The combo of spectacular scenery, vibrating history, antiquated regime and hordes of things to do keep drawing us back.”
I soon discover the essence in their statement. There is nothing in this haven to create any sort of stress and strain, so relaxation imbues almost naturally. There are no traffic lights, no fast food chains like McDonalds or KFC, no Hoyts or Event Cinemas either. Five police officers guard the domain but are said to be always looking for things to do. This means locking houses and cars is not necessary. Though the island is small, a relatively lengthy roadway criss-crosses the landscape, so most accommodation deals provide guests with cars and a caution note saying cows and chooks have the right of way on the asphalt. Where on earth is it possible to experience this – unless it’s the fabled Paradise.
Undoubtedly pure nature evokes a feeling of awe right from the beginning. The surrounding vista is so therapeutic for mind and eyes that it’s nothing unusual for many city-jarred souls to do nothing but keep gazing at it from various locations to capture different silhouettes of the pine-clusters and the ocean in background.
Norfolk Island travel.Indian Link
At times, lazing in the sun on one of Norfolk Island’s tranquil beaches is an option, followed by a swim or snorkel in the edging lagoon. If plunging into the water is not preferred, glass bottom boats are available to showcase the underwater scenery. Bushwalking is another casual time spender, like playing golf at a picturesque stretch of seafront green or aimlessly wandering through the tiny stretch of Burnt Pine Township, the island’s little commercial hub where there are banks, shops, grocery stores and most of the well-known restaurants, bars and cafes.
Norfolk Island.Indian link
Sitting down somewhere quiet with a friendly local to learn more about the island’s fascinating history is a great choice for history buffs, who are well rewarded in Norfolk Island. Its history is unlike anywhere else on the planet; seafaring Polynesians, daring British sailors, brutal penal commandants, cynical criminals and pious Pitcairn Islanders have all left behind layers of amaze to intrigue future generations.
British explorer Captain James Cook during his second voyage in the South Pacific spotted this tall pine tree filled uninhabited atoll in 1774 and named it after the Duchess of Norfolk.
Four years later, a British settlement was established here along the seaside location, now called Kingston, as a penal camp with nine male and six female convicts deported from Australia, six weeks after arrival of the First Fleet in today’s Sydney. The settlement was deliberately abandoned in 1814 but reopened again in 1825, this time the brutal regime of the commandants making it a living hell for the 2000-plus inmates.
Norfolk Island travel.Indian Link
The convict history becomes painfully obvious when wandering through the ruins of prisons, gaols, guard towers and military barracks and some of the restored buildings at the Kingston historic quarter, now a World Heritage site. With imagination wide open, sounds of lashings, cries of convicts or laughter of sadist military officers can still be perceived. Though nothing much remains from the first era, the restored houses from the following edition represent one of the best samples of Georgian architecture. Now they are used as administration offices, stores or museums. The collections inside the four museums depict evocative stories of the past while the oldest graves in the nearby cemetery stand as silent witness of unimaginable horror and misery. The “Sound & Light” show at Kingston or “The Trial of the Fifteen”, a courtroom drama played at the island’s one and only so-called auditorium instil life into the history which spills shame on the British Empire.
In 1855, the Empire ceased convict operations on Norfolk Island with almost all residents transported to Tasmania, then called Van Diemen’s Land.
Norfolk Island travel.Indian Link
The island was once again uninhabited, but not for long. A year later, 194 people arrived from Pitcairn Island, located around 6800 kilometres away. They were mostly the descendants of the famous Bounty mutineers, the daring English sailors and their Tahitian wives, all of whom after the mutiny found refuge in unoccupied Pitcairn Island to escape British justice. However when that land became overcrowded, Queen Victoria granted them Norfolk Island, already fitted with basic infrastructure from earlier settlements. Mel Gibson’s hit movie The Bounty immortalises their story.
The new settlers brought with them their culture, traditions and dialect, all evolving from a unique mix of maritime English and Polynesian habits and practices. Their descendants now constitute about 40% of the islands population of 1500. Calling themselves Norfolk Islanders, they breathe the culture and traditions inherited from their ancestors who were conscious not to lose whatever they brought from Pitcairn Island. They play cricket and golf, weave baskets, swing hips the way Polynesians do and speak a unique dialect which is a rough blend of old English and Tahitian. It’s taught in the island’s only school to ensure it is lives on.
Norfolk Island travel.Indian Link
Friendly community fellows are always keen to tell their stories and a good way of confining some of them is by joining a popular evening excursion, which includes a progressive visit to three local homes for entree, main course and desert. Apart from sampling nice food all prepared with local Norfolk Island produce, these dinner outings provide a great opportunity to mingle with locals and learn some of their traditions, recipes and vocabularies; getting to know fellow travellers comes in as a bonus.
Norfolk Island.Indian Link
Norfolk Island functions as an external territory of Australia with her own flag, language, general rules and even postage stamps. However this is supposed to change in July 2016 when it will become a Regional Council of Australia. Some residents who are descendants of the people from Pitcairn don’t favour this reform, fearing total loss of their identity and culture. Whatever happens politically, they assure the tranquil island will still remain a peaceful sanctuary for visitors.

Travel notebook: Norfolk Island

Getting there
Air New Zealand (airnewzealand.com.au) operates direct flights to Norfolk Island from Sydney on Mondays and Fridays and from Brisbane on Tuesdays and Saturdays.
Accommodation
While there are several accommodation options, the Governor’s Lodge Resort Hotel (www.governorslodgeresort.com) offers fully serviced accommodation with first-class facilities.
Eating
Several eateries are available for breakfast, lunch and dinner; some popular ones are Hilli Restaurant, Olive Café, Golden Orb Cafe, Bedrock Cafe and Blue Bull Café and Little Singapore which offers quality Asian cuisine.
Key Info
Travelling to Norfolk Island is considered international, so carrying valid passport is essential. Legal currency is Aussie dollars.
More information www.norfolkisland.com.au

Ask Auntyji: Matters of health

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You ask, Auntyji answers!

AuntyJi.Indian Link

Washy washy clean

DEAR AUNTYJI
There is a girl at work who has a really really bad habit. She goes into the bathroom and comes out and does not wash her hands! How disgusting is that? Chi! If someone else is washing their hands, she sticks two index fingers under the water for 3 seconds to make a show of it, and then leaves. It’s like pani and sabun are her dushman. Auntyji, who is this dirty, filthy, behuda nagin? Last time she did this I wanted to say something but I didn’t. But we all talk about her behind her back and someone even put signs up in the toilets about hand washing, but clearly, this besharam does not read. I want to report this kulankini to HR, but I don’t have the courage. Can you give me a solution please?
AuntyJi.Indian Link
AUNTYJI SAYS
Aah, the bathroom habits of a global workforce. Well, yes, there are some strange people who have questionable habits, and then there are others who don’t wash their hands after going to lavatory. What I find most entertaining about this situation is that like other mean girls in the workplace, you and your clique have decided to talk about this girl behind her back, instead of addressing this issue in a mature, professional way. And here is how I would have done it, because I am wise, and all-knowing. I would have gone out of my way to make friends with this ladki. I would have been genuinely friendly with her. Then, as luck would have had it, one day, I would have found her in the bathroom at the same time as me. Then, when I saw her do the flyover of her index fingers and the water, I would have looked at her in surprise and said, why Meghna – assuming her name was Meghna and not Sangeeta or Purnima – did you hear about the bout of dysentery that plagued the people in Finance? I saw some of them on our floor today, so wash your hands properly, otherwise you too will get dysentery or even cholera. And then spend a few more minutes saying how there are people walking around with TB and Hepatitis and you don’t want to catch these, so you wash your hands properly. By the time you finish your sermon, you want poor Meghna to think that she is surrounded by pestilence and disease, and her only salvation is pani, sabun and vigorous hand action. See, and she will be grateful to you for trying to protect her health and to teach her basic hygiene that clearly her mother did not teach her. This is how you solve problems – by selling a message and in this instance, it’s one of hope and inspiration. Not the crazy back biting message you were peddling. Good luck, and remember you want to strike the fear of bubonic plague into the dark recesses of this girl’s mind. You want her to end up with OCD that’s how tenacious you need to be.
 

In sickness as in health?

AuntyJi.Indian Link
DEAR AUNTYJI
I would love it if you were really honest and told me exactly what you thought of my problem. So, a week ago, on account of not eating enough fibre, sitting at his computer for over 8 hours of the day and not drinking enough water and probably being slightly overweight, my husband developed a rather painful and embarrassing problem, where sitting down and walking was very painful for him. He was in quite a bit of pain and ultimately he went to a doctor and got the problem rectified. Now Auntyji, my husband is a smoker, and I have asked him on many occasions not to compromise his health. So when he complained about the pain he was in, my cavalier response was that he should put up with the pain, because chemotherapy and lung cancer was much more painful. I had zero sympathy for him. I told Anish that I didn’t have any sympathy for someone who takes his health for granted and is swiftly heading towards a life of pain and misery, courtesy of British American Tobacco. He was startled by my position but not as much as I was. The thing is, I desperately love Anish – the same way Rekha loved Amitabh in Silsila, Mr Natwarlal and possibly in real life. The same way Nargis probably loved Raj Kapoor. The same way Pooja Bhatt loved… wait, what was his name again? Anyway, I am crazily in love with my husband of five years but how come I have no sympathy for him in his sickness? Wasn’t I supposed to love him in sickness as in health? Am I a churail, Auntyji, or just a bad, horrid wife? Can you please tell me your honest thoughts?
AUNTYJI SAYS
Arre, sun. Your nasamajh husband is totally deserving of your lack of sympathy. I am on your side. Koi bhi mard joh smoking karta hai, and who takes no care of his health, should not complain, nor expect any sympathy if he falls ill. Now if he was walking down the street one day and a tarbuz fell on his head and caused him injury, then he deserves all of your loving attention and kindness and care. Lekin, agar woh smoker hai, to no sympathy. You should have even rubbed in the message – how painful it would be if he can’t eat or take care of himself if he falls ill through smoking-related illness. Your husband is a fool, and you were right to absolutely show him no respect at a time when he was in pain and in low spirits. Did his behaviour change? Has he stopped smoking or is now taking care of himself more? I doubt it. Clearly you love him very much – and you are trying to send him a message, so I fully support you in your quest. No one can argue with your logic. So next time he has that painful problem again, feel free to kick him on the behind as he walks past. Tell him that’s for disrespecting your life together.

The business of sport

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YSPN hosts Head of the Hyundai A-League, Damien de Bohun

YSPN Dinner.Indian Link
Young Sikh Professionals Network (YSPN) Melbourne chapter recently hosted its inaugural Annual Dinner at the Melbourne Business School. The event, The Business of Sport, was attended by more than 70 people. This marked the 22nd event YSPN has hosted in the three short years since it was founded.
The keynote speaker for the event was Head of the Hyundai A-League, Damien de Bohun who was welcomed by YSPN National Chairperson Karan Anand. During the gala evening, guests learned how Mr de Bohun’s passion for sport has driven him to radically change the face of cricket and now football in Australia.
YSPN Dinner.Indian Link
Since taking on the chief role at the Hyundai A League in 2012, Mr de Bohun has overseen an 18% increase in attendance and 23% increase in broadcast viewers. He has also been instrumental in finalising the new Collective Bargaining Agreement for the Hyundai A-League, and securing TV Broadcast rights dealing with both FOX Sports and SBS TV.
Mr de Bohun shared his career journey from being previously in charge of game and market development for Cricket Australia, to moving to the A-League. He discussed how he has turned the Hyundai A-League into a successful franchise in competition with the traditional Australian national sports of AFL and NRL.
YSPN Dinner.Indian Link
Sharing his business and commercial acumen with the crowd, who were made up of mostly young Sikh professionals and business leaders from organisations such as CSL and NBN, Mr de Bohun outlined five key tips for success.
1. Focus on finding
outstanding people – find people who will complement you in the area that you are weak
2. Reflect often – It is important to pause and deepen your understanding of your context and situation
3. Actions speak louder than words – People notice you by what you achieve, not just by what you say
4. Listen – You have two ears for listening and one mouth for speaking, use them in those proportions. He also quoted FFA and Westfield Chairman, Frank Lowy who had remarked to him ‘I don’t learn anything when I speak’.
5. Focus on incremental gains – Success is a series of short races
Acknowledging the importance of networking, Mr de Bohun suggested that people needed to get out of their comfort zones to network. The key to networking is persistence, he said, which means that once you meet someone new you need to follow up and keep in touch with that person a number of times before a successful outcome is reached.
YSPN Dinner.Indian Link
With active chapters in Melbourne, Sydney and Brisbane, YSPN is looking to launch a Perth chapter before the end of the year.
YSPN is driven by its mission statement ‘to create the conditions for young Sikh professionals to succeed and amplify their influence’. More information visit www.yspn.org.au

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Resolving family disputes can be made an easier process when shifted outside the legal system, writes MUKTESH CHIBBER

broken family.Indian Link
When we enter a marriage we sign up for a life journey together and hope that the testing moments can strengthen and restore our relationship. Whilst we all seek happiness in life, and we expect happiness once we tie the knot with our life partner, this is not always the case.
The contemporary reality is that separation and divorce have become the fabric of family life. Separation is painful. For some it is emotionally and financially catastrophic. The question is, how do we make the separation process less painful? Or do we want to continue making the process unpleasant and distasteful, or to punish the partner with whom we once shared our dreams? How many couples can ‘let go’ gracefully and how many continue to harbor painful emotions, resentment and disappointment?
Yet more distressing is the adversarial legal path. Let us not forget the irreparable long-term damage we can cause our children. How many parents can focus on protecting their children from the war zone of the adults’ emotional battle? It cannot be emphasised enough the importance of not using your children as tools to get to each other. These children will grow up to realise how their parents influenced them.
Traditional Australian family law placed a high value on parental autonomy. It took about thirty years to bring about a radical change to the Family Law Act and to introduce a ‘no fault’ based system of divorce. The current Family Law Act provides equal shared responsibility while creating an obligation for parents to communicate with each other so as to reach an agreement on issues of most importance for the child.
Family Dispute Resolution (FDR), a more collaborative model, is a shift to resolving parenting conflicts and matters concerning children and property to outside the courtroom.
In my opinion, the FDR model comparatively minimises the long-stretched emotional and financial traumatic intervention of the legal system. It enables parents to adopt a new approach of resolving conflict, by putting their unresolved adult relationship issues to one side and working cooperatively and collaboratively for the best outcomes for the children.
The main focus of the Parenting Agreement Plan process is the best interests of the child. Emphasis is placed on the importance of equal shared parental responsibility and encouraging parents to communicate with each other with regard to significant issues for the wellbeing of their children
Whilst parenting plan are not legally binding, parents can alter the parenting plan and parenting orders by returning to FDR. Parenting orders, on the other hand, are orders made by the court and can only be altered through new court orders.
Resolving conflict outside the legal system enables separated parents to take ownership of their decision and make it most practical for their family situation.
Muktesh Chibber is a couples and family therapist, and a family law mediator. She has 25 years of experience working in Australia.
If you need help or support:
Indian Family Relationship Services – Culturally sensitive services (Hindi, Punjabi) 0425 367 617
Relationships Australia – 1300 735 030